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Summer Reading – The Joy Luck Club

Summer Reading – The Joy Luck Club

The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan

I have a funny story about attempting to readThe Joy Luck Club. I first read an excerpt from it in one of my writing classes when we were either talking about memoir or tone or something like that. I read about Waverly Jong, protege chess player and I was fascinated.

I determined I would read the whole thing as soon as the opportunity arose. Now, I’m sort of a lazy library user. I do everything online: I request whichever books I want, they send the books to the library of my choosing, and when I arrive they are all on one shelf with my name on a sticker on the binding. It’s wonderful. So I went on to Hillsborough County’s Public Library online and requested The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan or at least what I thought was TJLC with an academic forward by Harold Bloom. What I got was a collection of essays about TJLC and writing about being the children of immigrants. I was frustrated. And at that point the list of books I wanted to read had grown exponentially larger and I briefly contemplated just dropping it off the list. I’d seen about 10 minutes of the movie and thought that might be enough. But my conscience wouldn’t let it go… or some perverse need to finish arbitrary goals I set for myself just wouldn’t give up. Anyway, I reserved it again online and got the correct book the second time around. It joined the stack of books that travelled to the beach and I started it the Monday night at the beach.

The funny thing about reading while on my family vacation wasI felt everyone was super conscious of what I was reading. I only finished three books while I was there because I was still trying to make a dent in Anna Karenina. Nevertheless, Jeffrey teased me for waiting so long to read TJLC. I looked at the publication date and told him I was two years old when it came out so I’m surprised it took me this long, too.

I’m glad that I did give it the time, though. Every girl’s relationship with her mother is immensly complex. It was interesting to see this complexity played out between women who did not speak language the same way and who held different societal and cultural values. These complexities are true in non-immigrant families (that whole “generation gap” thing) but are sometimes more difficult to recognize. A lot of the time it’s written as the younger generation’s impatience with the older and the older generation’s dismissal of the younger. (Why can’t we all just get along?)

So four fairly modern women and three mothers tell the stories of their lives either growing up in China or in America. I found the mother’s stories a bit more fascinating because to me the daughters mostly seemed whiney to me. I love the idea that parents have stories they don’t share with their children that if they did would create all kinds of common ground. I think it’s tricky for parents and children to realize that they can have common ground with their adult children. And for the children who attempt to claim adulthood at 18 it can be difficult for us to know when we’re really ready for it.

I love reading about family relationships and how they change over the years. So this was a fascinating book to me. Especially the traditional Chinese elements that were involved in the story. All in all I enjoyed it and if you’re looking for something a little heavier than your regular summer fluff this one’s great. It’s also a great book for discussion since most copies include a book club section in the back and there is the movie.

My Big Brother

My Big Brother

I have five sisters. Five. That’s a loaded sentence I know. And there are definitely a lot of stories I can (and eventually will) tell about growing up in the middle of six girls. Our family has a fascinating story. One that I’m sure will always echo in whatever I write. But that’s not really what I’m writing about today. Anyway, that’s me on end (right side).

Me and My Sisters (L to R Bethany, Allison, Camille, Madison, Ashley, me)

   What I’m writing about today is my brother. I don’t have a brother by blood, but I’m stuck with him all the same.

Me and Jeff

  My oldest sister Allison is married to a guy named Jeffrey. He’s been around awhile, a little over 10 years or something like that. Basically we’ve both known each other long enough to remember some very awkward fashion phases. For the past few years Jeff’s been dealing with some pretty crazy stuff. In the past few months Jeff and I started working on a blog together. Yesterday, Jeffrey turned himself in to Manatee County Jail in order to serve a 21 month prison sentence. Sunday night we all went bowling together. When he hugged me goodbye he said, “See you in a year and a half.” I told him to stop it… I wasn’t ready to start crying yet.

  I know it’s been a weird week. And I’m sorry that it has all been creeping into this venue. Monday someone close to our family died, Wednesday night they celebrated his life, Wednesday morning my cousin testified in court regarding a case he’s been involved with for the past three years, Thursday during our friend’s funeral my brother-in-law turned himself in and tonight Camille will record her first Demo CD. Life hardly ever is all good or all bad. And I don’t really know all that I’m trying to say here. I just couldn’t let it go by without saying something. It’s strange to officially get a big brother when you’re 23. It’s stranger to realize he won’t be around teasing all of us at family stuff for 21 months.

  Tuesday night I edited his last blog before he turned himself in. It was an optimistic “See ya, later” filled with all his hopes for what he’ll be able to do while in prison. I sat on the couch in our living room and choked back tears as I tried to make my way through it.

  I’m so proud of my big brother.

  Two years ago we sat in their living room and he asked me about how dinosaurs fit into the Bible’s story of creation and how you get into Heaven if you’re essentially a good person. Two nights ago I read about what God has been doing in his life this past year and I was so moved.

  I just keep thinking, “Our story isn’t over yet.” It isn’t over yet.

20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.

                                            -Genesis 50:20

** You can start from the beginning of Jeffrey’s story here

**And if you’re the praying kind add our family to your list and Jeffrey especially. I’d much appreciate it.

 

A Breeze and a Song

A Breeze and a Song

Today is a sad day. It’s a morning for praise music and quietness. I have a whole schedule planned out for the next three weeks of this blog. But life has invaded this week.

Yesterday morning at church a friend handed my dad two of those rubber bracelets. They were meant to serve as a reminder to pray for a member of our church family struggling with very aggressive cancer. Just after he handed the bracelets to us my mom lead the band in the song Fail Us Not by 1000 Generations. These words hit me in the gut every time they sing them. In light of what is happening with our friends the Coles and in our own family this week this song has become something of a safety blanket for me. If you’re the praying kind I know our family and the Cole family would greatly appreciate your prayers.

Fail Us Not

Failure doesn’t phase you.
Worry doesn’t win.
Loss doesn’t leave you afraid to start again.
Our sin doesn’t shock you.
Our shame doesn’t shame you at all.
Mistakes do not move you.
Terror doesn’t tame.
Death doesn’t doom you to life in the grave.
Our suffering doesn’t scare you.
Our secrets won’t surprise you at all.
At all.

There is nothing above you.
There is nothing beyond you.
There is nothing that you can’t do.
There is no one beside you.
There is no one that’s like you.
There is nothing that you can’t do.
Whatever will come, we’ll rise above.
You fail us not, You fail us not.
No matter the war, our hope is secure.
You fail us not, You fail us not.
You fail us not.

Hatred doesn’t hide you.
Evil doesn’t ail.
Despair can’t disguise you and tell you that you fail.
Our doubt doesn’t daunt you.
Our darkness won’t defeat you at all.
At all.

There is nothing above you.
There is nothing beyond you.
There is nothing that you can’t do.
Whatever will come, we’ll rise above.
You fail us not, You fail us not.
No matter the war, our hope is secure.
You fail us not, You fail us not.
Whatever will come, we’ll rise above.
You fail us not, You fail us not.
No, You fail us not.
You fail us not.

You fail us not.